Warning signs taken from www.ub-counseling.buffalo.edu/rapeprevent.shtml

  • Emotionally abuses you (insults, belittling comments, ignoring you, acting sulky or angry when you initiate an action or idea).
  • Tells you who you may be friends with, how you should dress, or tries to control other elements of your life or relationship.
  • Talks negatively about men/women in general.
  • Gets jealous when there is no reason.
  • Drinks heavily, uses drugs, or tries to get you drunk.
  • Berates you for not wanting to get drunk, get high, have sex, or go with him/her to an isolated or personal place.
  • Refuses to let you share any of the expenses of a date and gets angry when you offer to pay.
  • Is physically violent to you or others, even if it's "just" grabbing and pushing to get his/her way.
  • Acts in an intimidating way toward you by invading your "personal space" (sits too close, speaks as if he/she knows you much better than he/she does, touches you when you tell him/her not to).
  • Is unable to handle sexual and emotional frustrations without becoming angry.
  • Does not view you as an equal--because he/she is older or sees him/herself as smarter or socially superior.
  • Thinks poorly of himself and guards his masculinity by acting tough.
  • Goes through extreme highs and lows, is kind one minute and cruel the next.
  • Is angry and threatening to the extent that you have changed your life so as not to anger him/her.

If you are experiencing any of these violence warning signs in your relationship, campus and community help is available:

  • Counseling Center, 527-5195
  • Sexual Assault Victim's Advocate, 526-3032
  • Security Office, 527-5777
  • Health Center, 527-5295
  • Dean of Students Office, 527-5158
  • YWCA Domestic Abuse Hotline, 529-9922 (24/7)