Relationship Violence Warning Signs

Taken from www. ub-counseling.buffalo.edu/rapeprevent.shtml

● Emotionally abuses you (insults, belittling comments, ignoring you, acting sulky or angry when you initiate an action or idea).

● Tells you who you may be friends with, how you should dress, or tries to control other elements of your life or relationship.

● Talks negatively about men/women in general.

● Gets jealous when there is no reason.

● Drinks heavily, uses drugs, or tries to get you drunk.

  Berates you for not wanting to get drunk, get high, have sex, or go with him/her to an isolated or personal place.

● Refuses to let you share any of the expenses of a date and gets angry when you offer to pay.

● Is physically violent to you or others, even if it's "just" grabbing and pushing to get his/her way.

● Acts in an intimidating way toward you by invading your "personal space" (sits too close, speaks as if he/she knows you much better than he/she does, touches you when you tell him/her not to).

● Is unable to handle sexual and emotional frustrations without becoming angry.

● Does not view you as an equal--because he/she is older or sees him/herself as smarter or socially superior.

● Thinks poorly of himself and guards his masculinity by acting tough.

● Goes through extreme highs and lows, is kind one minute and cruel the next.

● Is angry and threatening to the extent that you have changed your life so as not to anger him/her.

 

If you are experiencing any of these violence warning signs in your relationship,

Campus and community help is available.

CounselingCenter................................527-5195
Security Office....................................527-5777
Health Center.....................................527-5295
Dean of Students Office.......................527-5158
YWCA Domestic Abuse Hotline..............529-9922 (24/7)